This is a really big for me. I am learning things that have been a mystery for my life. This story is meant for my biological mother or father, or any of their relations I may find.
This account is also for my wonderful family and friends who are so excited about this. They are all so supportive and anxious for updates. This is a way I can tell them all at once. It also helps me to write this as I go. Most importantly, its for my biological mother. If she needs time, or doesn't wish to meet me, maybe she can at least get my message from this.
My primary reason for finding her has been the same all my life. I want her to know that her decision turned out as she would have hoped. I've had a happy life, I became an artist, a music maker.
Most importantly, I have always thought of her with so much love and reverence for the brave decision she made so long ago.
I want her to know if she has ever thought of me, maybe she thinks, today I am 10, or 18, 21, or 30. I was also thinking of her and so grateful for my life that she gave. I have imagined all the possibilities and I know that anything can happen. Or not happen. I have learned much in the past few weeks, and I'll share that as I go. It seems like its really going to happen. I'm working with an adoption specialist who is wonderful, leading me through all the steps. My heart pounds when he gives me updates on the phone.
So thank you for being with me for this. As soon as I get some of this background written, I will be writing in real time. It’s all happening much faster than I thought it would, so I’m scrambling to catch up. So here goes.
I always knew I was adopted. As long as I can remember my mom would tell me the story like a fairy tale with a happy ending. The year before adopting me, they lost a baby born premature. As my story was told to me, a mom and dad were sad because they lost their baby boy. They prayed for another baby and God gave them his smallest angel, and that was me, and I made them happy again.
My adoptive father Florencio Ernesto Franco was a sheriff in East LA. My mother Carol Lee Franco was a homemaker. Like many people in that era, they met in high school, were engaged and then married after his time in the service.This is the only time I will call them “adoptive” because they are my mom and dad, so I'll refer to them as that. For the woman I hope to find, I will call her “biological” mother. Florencio and Carol Franco took me home just weeks after my birth, and named me Lisa Lynne Franco.
My mom speaks of they day they brought me home as if it was yesterday. It was a full year after applying to adopt. There were many interviews and a lot of hoping and waiting. They finally got the news that there was a little girl who was here and she would be theirs. My mom said they were taking me home for the first time and she could not believe the length of my eyelashes. My dad had to keep pulling over the car so they could look at me. We went straight to the home of my dad’s parents. My Nana and Tata, where there was a party for me! I had many aunts and uncles, lots of cousins, I could feel how happy everyone was.
| Adelina and Florencio Sr. |
This is going to be just fine...
I grew up in Southern California around Whittier and Diamond Bar. It was a middle class upbringing and a lot of fun and celebrations.
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| My dog Pokey |
It was a surprise to everyone!
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| Me on the left, - hmmm... not so sure about this. |
My dad worked in the East LA sheriffs station his whole career. He worked undercover for burglary cases, homicide and narcotics. He would sometimes bring me by the station on his day off and we'd have orange soda there.
When he came home from work my sister and I would run to him knowing he would give us a flip in the air and say "va va voom!!" .. and we would say
"do it again dad!!" over and over.

I started playing guitar when I was eight years old. I got pretty good so I got lessons and learned lots of songs. My dad would always ask me to play my songs at our campfires. My mom had read that if you play music for a baby, they will be musical.
So she put music on for me in my crib in hopes that would happen.
End of Part 1
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6 comments:
My heart POUNDS with yours as I read your welcoming overture & grateful life account Lisa! My story was not nearly as happy or fulfilling. I "found" my birth motherin germany with the help of two trusted worldly ladies who had access to German authorities, records & my adoption papers in English & German - in a two year search. She was living not far from where I was born & as I don't speak German - She doesn't speak English. My friend acted as my intermediary by phone & reported to me later - That she Anna Viktoria Mielinger was NOT interested in further contact as she was a raging Diabetic and could take no stressors. She had married & had two more children who "knew" that I exist. That was the end of it with a "The Adoption Is Irrevocable". At 40, THAT was a crushing blow & felt a LOT like being discarded - TWICE. I pray your "meetings" if they happen - will hold a happier story ending than mine. Be prepared to let it GO - if things DON'T go as you HOPE & pray they will. She has her reasons - & like it or not - We have to respect them. At least she had enough character to give you up to adoption so someone else could provide the basics for the wonderful life you're living & BLESSINGS your work is to countless souls all over the world! Love & sypathetic {{{HUGS}} - Teri
Thanks Teri, I know that anything is possible, including what you experienced. I helped my music agent find her mom once, and a similar thing happened. She had gone on to marry and none of her family knew, so she wanted to keep it secret. If that happens to me, I will let it go. I only wanted one thing, that she knew it turned out well. So, if that happens I'll be content with that. I want to at least try. I think I'm in a place where it
will be okay no matter what the outcome. Thanks for your story.
...Wish you happines and peace,Kindnes Nickey
Hi Lisa,
Thanks for sharing your story and photos. I have so much admiration for you, your music and the healing you bring to so many. I wish you well in your search for your Mom. Sometimes I watch the TV show, the LOCATOR with host Troy Dunn. I love his dedication and compassion... I always end of crying when he unites the missing people.
I send my blessings to you on your quest to find the missing pieces...
love,
Harmony Ananda
Hi Lisa,
My mum (and I, I guess) were reunited a few years ago with the son she had had to give up 40 years before. When she read in his introductory letter that he had never blamed her, and always felt thankful for her selfless decision, the tears just started streaming down her face.
In the time since, we have gotten to know one another, and have found our rhythm, I think, in terms of how to be in one anothers' lives. It's a bumpy journey, but has its rewards. We are such similar people and so compatible in some ways, and yet so very different in others. Somehow strikingly, instinctively familiar, yet so foreign.
Nonetheless, it has been an incredibly cathartic experience for my mum, and my 'brother', and I hope you meet with similar positivity.
Lovely story Lisa, & you made lovely music for us in Los Osos this past year. My husband & I adopted our daughter almost 19 years ago & she is lovely & the best thing that happened to both of our lives, even tho as often happens, children change everything & we separated & divorced when she was just 1.5. But we were both devoted to our daughter & shared her equally her entire years, sometimes it was difficult, as we were opposites & had different parenting styles as well. My daughter always wanted siblings & for us to be back together & since her birthmom had a 3 year old when we adopted, she longed for the sister she never knew & the mother who "gave her away".She always asked to find her birthmom, but her dad was totally against it & hurt by it, so I reapected his wishes. The state we adopted in legally requires the adoptee to be 18 before searching for the birthparents. We were told the birthdad was killed in a gang shooting, so we believed we were only dealing with 1 parent. My daughter turned 18 & graduated from H.S. last year & all she wanted was to find her birthmom & sister. I hired a pro & quite quickly with the info I had we found her. We were traveling to Las Vegas when we got the call from her in Phoenix, my daughter became an avid softball player & earned herself a college scholarship. We were going to Vegas to play ball & her birthmom told her her sister was turning 22 that weekend in Vegas & she was planning to go there & we could all meet. It was quite the synchronicity. She also told my daughter that she had another daughter 3 years later & she had a 15 year old sister as well. We hung up & my daughter was devastated. She kept #1 & "threw away" #2 & kept #3. She felt something was wrong with her,no matter how ridiculous that reasoning was. We played our ball tournament, her mom came late & bombed & her 2 sisters made it obvious they were used to dealing with this type of problem behavior. Our daughter was born addicted to meth when we arrived in Phoenix for her birth. Both her sisters lived together in Vegas & neither of them had been raised by the birthmom (grandparents). By the end of the weekend, my daughter really enjoyed meeting her birthmom & especially her 2 sisters & a baby nephew. They all looked alike. The birthmom dropped the bomb on us that she lied about the birthdad so she could do the adoption without interference & she took a picture of my daughter with her cell phone & texted it to the birthdad & called him & said, "here, talk to your kid, she looks just like you."& we all cried because he was crying & said she did look just like him when he conceived her @ age 18, 18 years earlier. That weekend before we left, my daughter found out she had gotten her scholarship in Vegas & would be going to college there near her sisters. 6 months later, she is doing very well, got A's & B's her 1st semester @ college, is playing great as always, drove home to visit on Thanksgiving & over the Christmas/New Years holidays & break. We flew her roundtrip to Vegas for the NY's weekend for her sister's NY's party. The 3 girls are like 3 peas in a pod & wonderful support for each other.Both the other girls have convinced our daughter that she was the lucky one. Birthmom is in Phoenix & they talk & email & FB. Birthdad made a big splash of words, but having a wife & 3 more young children keeps him busy & he hasn't made an appearance in the flesh yet(but she DNA tested + as his).Our daughter has solved the mystery & healed the hole inside & gained 5 siblings & knows who her parents are & who she can turn to. We are so glad you found your birthmom & that you could share your feelings to help others who have shared an adoption experience.Love & Light thru your music.
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